Dating for the 40 plus generation

It is sad fact that many dating options do not work for men and women over their 40’s. This is shocking, firstly because 40 is very young and many people may not have met their match by this age. Alternatively they had already had a long term relationship and for various reasons may be out dating again aged 40, 50, 60 and above.

In my experience of working as a matchmaker for Drawing Down the Moon, I really enjoyed working with men and women up into their 70’s. These clients were interesting, attractive, informed, dynamic and challenging. They had life experience, knew themselves and what they were looking for.

If you are aged 40 plus you don’t need me to tell you this, however the dating world and industry does not always reflect the needs of the older customer and I met many men and women who found it increasingly difficult to meet the sorts of people they wanted to date as they already had established friendship groups, were perhaps not working any longer or were in established careers where they did not meet new people.

At matchmaking agencies, there are plenty of amazing, attractive older women who are looking for a companion to go out to dinners, the opera or concerts. They already have their own home and family, so they are not necessarily looking for a live in relationship or they are happy to take things slowly in order to find the right person at this point in their lives. Traditional matchmakers are fantastic for men of any age, but particularly older men as they will have lots of opportunity to meet some wonderful women.

For women the choices are more limited, which is very frustrating. Generally more women than men join matchmaking agencies, however there may only be a handful of eligible men. Where it worked best for women was if they are pragmatic and realistic about who they could meet and were prepared to compromise on factors like height, age etc. It does not help to be overly rigid about your criteria. As many of us know, we would not necessarily have chosen our previous partners in a line up of eligible men, but the combined reasons we chose them included attraction, humour, intelligence, drive and also what we wanted at that point in our lives. I found that women who knew themselves, had a sense of their attractiveness and were willing to move on to the next match if they had not met the right person yet also did well.

If you are an older woman or man and would like to talk more about relationship and date coaching in London, please contact me on 020 8123 7590 or abijude@hotmail.com

Interesting article on older dating https://www.xsandos.net/blog/dating/online-dating-old-age.html